An ethos to live by:

“When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of
changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not
change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my
It too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last attempt, I
settled for changing only my family; those closest to me, but alas, they would
have none of it.
And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realise: If I had only changed
myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their
inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my
country and who knows, I may have even changed the world.”

The words were written on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop (1100A.D)
in the crypts of Westminster Abbey. (Dan Clark, Weathering the Storm) 



- Newsletter 01 - Jan 2010 (click to download)

- Newsletter 02 - June 2010 (click to download)

- Newsletter 03 - March 2011 (click to download)

- Newsletter 04 - February 2012 (click to download)

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